Prepared for SalafiMatch · Practical marriage guidance
A useful handoff tells the person helping you what is known, what remains uncertain and what you are asking them to do. Prepare a short factual introduction rather than forwarding an entire private conversation without context.
Write the purpose before the details
Start with one sentence: “I would like help arranging an initial discussion” or “We need to clarify these points before deciding whether to continue.” Being interested is different from making a commitment. Make that distinction clear so a family contact does not accidentally describe an early enquiry as an agreed proposal.
Use four headings
Known facts: details the person has directly provided, with uncertainty clearly marked. Open questions: the few issues most relevant to the next step. Contact permission: what may be shared and with whom. Requested action: the introduction, question or meeting you would like help arranging.
Keep opinions separate from facts. “They seem organized” is an impression; “They said they finish their course in July” is a reported statement that may still need checking. Neither is a completed background check.
A fictional handoff
“We have exchanged an initial enquiry and would like our families to speak. We have discussed our cities and current study commitments. Relocation is unresolved. Please help arrange a suitable first discussion; do not announce an agreement or circulate the profile more widely.” This invented example shows the level of detail, not a required formula.
Understand what the app does
On SalafiMatch, the sister’s qualifying first message triggers a free WhatsApp notification to her wali with the brother’s contact details. Valid wali details and successful delivery are needed. That notification is not a chat transcript, a completed introduction or proof that the wali has approved the match. Check the current free-access explanation for the precise process and confirm the next step directly.
Close the handoff with a clear next action
Agree who will make contact, which channel they will use and when you will check back. If a notification has not arrived, do not assume someone has ignored it or that contact has already happened. Confirm the details and use the app’s support route for a product issue.
Questions about who should act as a wali or how religious requirements apply belong with a qualified scholar. This page helps organize information; it does not appoint a wali or replace religious advice.