You want a righteous man, but do you know what that really means? 🤔 It means he won't take you out on your birthday, he won't celebrate anniversaries, and he will expect you to cover according to the Qur'ān and Sunnah. He will want you to seek knowledge because that’s the path he walks on.
He won’t allow you to work with men, nor will he let you upload selfies on Instagram or post 'couple pictures' because he’s a real man and he has gheerah (jealousy for the sake of Allah).
So when you fantasize over beards, trousers above the ankles, and say you want to marry a man of the Sunnah, know that you must be a woman of the Sunnah too. 🌙
Things like this don’t just come. Social media hypes up the idea of marriage with couple selfies or couples giving dawah, and you think that’s what marriage is? Wake up. 🚨
We look at the marriage of Ā'isha رضي الله عنها with the Prophet ﷺ, and we all love the idea of it, but are we willing to give that? Are we prepared for the sacrifices?
Ā'isha رضي الله عنها narrated that 3 months would go by and they would not eat a thing other than dates and water. 🍞💧
[Sahih Bukhari]
SubḥānAllāh. Stop sitting here on Instagram dreaming about your perfect life with the perfect man. It’s not reality. There’s sacrifice and compromise, all for the sake of Allah.
So many sisters love saying, “I’m not going to cook or clean.” Sis, what do you mean? These times after you're married and reality hits, you're watching tutorials on how to hoover the living room. 🧹
Marriage is serious. You’re not going to cook? So he’s going to spend the day earning a living to feed you and the family, and you’re not going to cook or clean? Deluded.
Then, there’s the other type. Some sisters don’t want a righteous man, they don’t want someone who is “strict in Deen,” rather they want someone who is more easygoing. Well, that’s a calamity. At least the first type has a chance that he may be able to influence you to be on the same path, but the lenient one will drag you down with him. What a mess. 💔
- "Let's upload pictures together."
- "Let's go celebrate your birthday."
- "Jilbab/niqab isn’t necessary."
- "You go out and work."
- "We're low on money, let's get a loan."
- "He's playing Justin Bieber nasheeds at your wedding."
- "No problem hanging out with male friends."
How will we attain Jannah with this person? 🌳
And you’re here arguing with your parents, the ones who raised you, because they won’t let you marry him?
Solution?
Correct yourself. Learn your religion. Know Allah. Act according to the Sunnah. Be a woman upon the Qur'ān and Sunnah, and work for Jannah with a man upon the Qur'ān and Sunnah. That's how it works. 🏞️
The example I gave you of Ā'isha رضي الله عنها and the Prophet ﷺ, which are the best of examples, did they have everything in life? No. Did that take away from the status Allah granted them? No. SubhanAllah! 🌹
It’s not a joke. This religion is beautiful, and so are the people that act according to it, without taking away anything from it or adding to it. Ponder over this. 🧠💡